As I’ve shared in Swipe Right: Love Advice, I’m now bringing my focus fully into Mind Over the Market, where psychology, identity, and emotional patterns meet trading and investing.

At its core, this work is still about the same thing:
how we behave under pressure,
how patterns repeat,
and how our relationship with money shapes our decisions, often without us realizing it.

Going forward, you’ll hear from me under the Mind Over the Market name, as this is where my work is now centered.

Next week, I’m running a free live session that introduces this work in a grounded, practical way:

Free Live Webinar
The 3 Archetypes Running Your Trades
🗓 Wednesday, January 14th · 10:00 AM PST

We’ll look at how emotional patterns quietly shape decisions
why people hesitate, chase, tighten, or override their own rules
and how to begin shifting these patterns in real time.

If you’re curious, you’re very welcome to join and I’d love to see you there.

👉 Register here:
https://calendly.com/drsophie-mindoverthemarket/free-emotional-trader

Hi friends,

I want to share something personal with you, because if you’ve been here for the relationship conversations, you’re part of what led to this next chapter.

Back in 2021, I began noticing something that kept showing up again and again:

The way we relate in love is the way we relate to money.

The same emotional patterns:

• How we hold on

• How we chase

• How we avoid

• How we protect or over-give

• Whether we trust ourselves or abandon ourselves when things get hard

Over the last four years, I immersed myself in trading and investing communities in order to watch how people respond to uncertainty, risk, and reward and to train as an options trader. And I realized:

Investing and trading is emotional.
It’s identity, attachment, history, safety, and self-trust.
The same patterns that shape our relationships show up in the market, just expressed through money instead of people.

One of the participants in this work said it beautifully:

“When things get hard, I stay present now. That one shift changed the way I trade and the way I live.”

Once I saw the connection, the work naturally evolved.

This year, I launched Mind Over the Market™, a 6-week transformational training for traders and investors who want to release deep-seated beliefs around money and become emotionally steady, consistent, and self-led, in the market, and in their relationships.

And now, I’d love to open this work to you as well.

If you’re curious about how your relationship patterns show up in money, investing, and decision-making under pressure, I’m hosting a free workshop:

Free Workshop - Your Invitation
The 3 Trading Archetypes Where Love Patterns Meet Money Decisions
How your emotional patterns show up in trading, money, and relationships,
and how to shift them in real time.

Date: 19th November 2025
Cost: Free
Save your spot: Just pop on to Calendly here and register.
👉 https://calendly.com/drsophie-mindoverthemarket/free-mind-over-the-market-webinar

And if you already know you want to go deeper, the January 21st 6-week cohort is open. There’s a special rate available and space is limited, so just reach out if you’d like details.

https://www.mindoverthemarket.net

I look forward to seeing you there.

Warmest,
Dr. Sophie

PS, Another participant shared:
“I didn’t need more investing knowledge. I needed to understand why I kept abandoning what I already knew.”

If you’ve ever felt torn between love and timing, this one’s for you.

You’ll learn:

• How to talk honestly about commitment (without shutting down)

• The silent damage misaligned expectations can cause

• How to find clarity and common ground when the future feels uncertain

Keywords: relationship advice, marriage pressure, commitment issues, personal readiness, communication, parenting, relationship dynamics, timelines, honesty, shared goals

What we cover:

• Why people-pleasing is so hard to stop (even when you know it’s hurting you)

• The one habit silently blocking your voice

• Practical ways to shift your relationship dynamic

• The real foundation of emotional connection

• A powerful mindset reframe for your soul’s growth

✨ New episodes drop monthly.
Become a free Substack member to stay connected and join the conversation.

Chapters
00:00 — Rebuilding Trust After Vulnerability
02:55 — The Impact of Weaponized Vulnerability
05:03 — Understanding the Roots of Emotional Reticence
08:45 — Navigating Conflict and Communication
11:57 — The Importance of Intent vs. Impact
14:30 — Establishing Healthy Boundaries
18:00 — Repairing Connections After Conflict
21:58 — Moving Forward with Trust and Openness

Key Topics in This Episode:

(These topics will also shape this month’s Substack discussions, Q&As, and live coaching sessions!)
✅ Learn a technique to help express difficult emotions.
✅ Key check-in tips for maintaining a healthy relationship.
✅ How cultural and family dynamics influence your communication style.
✅ The best ways to start future-planning conversations.
✅ How to create safe spaces for dialogue, without confrontation.

Join the Conversation!

Do you struggle with confrontation in relationships? Share your thoughts in the comments and join my Substack for free! We’ll dive even deeper into this topic with live coaching, interactive Q&As, and practical tools to help you build stronger, more open connections. Bring your questions, your experiences, and maybe even a friend who avoids tough conversations - let’s work through this together!

Key Topics in This Episode:

These key topics will also guide this month’s Substack discussions, Q&A’s, and coaching prompts:

• Why does dating often stall after six weeks?

• How do attachment styles shape relationship dynamics?

• What role do non-negotiables play in building stronger connections?

• How can self-awareness help you break unhelpful dating patterns?

• Why is it important to enjoy the dating process without overanalyzing?

Have you ever noticed things shifting at the six-week mark in dating? Join the conversation in the comments - and head to my Substack this month for free! Together, we’ll explore this topic with personalized coaching insights, exclusive tools, live Q&A’s, and prompts designed to help you recognize patterns, set your non-negotiables, and enjoy the dating process. Bring your personal experiences, your questions, and maybe even a friend who’s stuck in the six-week cycle - and let’s work through this together!

Why the Move?

As many of you know, I’ve spent years working with private clients, helping them navigate the complexities of dating and relationships. I’m also the author of two books on relationships. While I absolutely love these one-on-one sessions, my availability is limited. That’s why I wanted to create a space where I could reach and support even more people.

With Substack—and my new podcast—I’ll now offer live coaching on the podcast, interactive Q&As, and practical advice tailored to both singles and couples.

(As a little aside, for those interested as I was out of contact last year. It was a busy and rewarding time for me. I had the honor of delivering the keynote on The Science of Happiness and Workspace Design at the 2024 World Psychology Conference in London, spoke in several cities around the globe, and collaborated with corporate clients on their transformative workspace wellbeing initiatives—an area that continues to be a cornerstone of my expertise.)

What You’ll Get on Substack

On Substack, you’ll gain access to exciting features designed to help you navigate your personal love life challenges:

• Live Podcast Coaching Sessions

  Each month, I’ll dive deeply into a listener’s dilemma on the podcast, offering practical advice you can apply to your own life. If you—or a friend—are dealing with a similar issue, you’ll gain tailored insights and guidance. Then, you can ask your own question during a Q&A.

  Some topics we’ve already tackled include:

  • How Can I Date a Big Personality Without Losing Myself?

  • Why Does My Dating Life Fall Apart at 6 Weeks - and How Can I Break the Pattern?

  • Why Am I Stuck Putting My Partner First and Feeling Unfulfilled?

  • Do I Have to Choose Between My Career and Finding Love?

  • What Should I Do When My Partner Uses My Vulnerability Against Me in an Argument?

  Want free coaching? Apply to be on the podcast! Your identity will be protected - we’ll use only your first name, or you can choose a pseudonym if you prefer.

• Live Q&As
  Submit your personal questions, and I’ll provide tailored advice during live monthly or bi-monthly Q&A sessions. (Frequency depends on how many questions I get!) Many of you will find these sessions relatable and impactful. (Think of the Ask Sophie live advice series I did on the Huffington Post - if you remember that! Or the Balanced Life segment series I hosted on KTLA Morning Show)

• Practical Tools and Insights
  Actionable tips, meditations, quizzes, and thoughtful advice designed to help you create and maintain the love life you desire - whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship.

What Do You Need to Do?

You don’t need to do anything - you’ll automatically be moved to Substack and continue receiving all my content.

If Substack isn’t for you, you can unsubscribe at any time. No hard feelings if you’re not interested or feel your love life doesn’t need a boost. Although you might want to recommend it to a friend or family member who is looking for actionable answers.

A Gift for You

To celebrate this move, all Substack content will be free for the first 90 days! After that, there will be a free option still and the exclusive features - like live Q&As, coaching discounts, meditations, and more - will be available to paid subscribers.

If you’re ready to take the next step toward transforming your relationships, stay tuned - I’m so excited to share this new journey with you.

Thank you for being part of my community. I can’t wait to see you on Substack and to help you out!

Warmly,
Dr. Sophie Keller

Through my private psychology practice and Swipe Right Love Advice, I offer you practical tools rooted in science and self-development to navigate modern relationships - no magic tricks, just time-tested proven strategies.

But first, let me share how I went from dodging dating disasters to helping people build lasting love. (Spoiler: no fairy godmother involved!)

From Personal Struggles to Professional Happiness

Before meeting my husband, my love life was l let’s just say - “character-building.” Fast forward 20 years, and I’ve been happily married while guiding countless others through the rollercoaster of dating and relationships.

In my private practice, demand often exceeds my capacity, which is why I created Swipe Right Love Advice. My mission? To help you skip some of the struggles I faced and spark those “aha!” moments that shift everything. You’ll walk away with practical tools you can use immediately to transform your love life—starting today.

What Makes My Approach Unique?

I’m not here to offer fluff or cookie-cutter advice. My approach is grounded in:

• A PhD in Positive Psychology

• Decades of professional and media experience

• Four best-selling books (including two on relationships)

• A unique coaching blend of evidence-based practices and self-development methodologies, drawn from extensive training across multiple modalities.

Whether it’s practical tools or fresh perspectives, my goal is to help you uncover those “aha!” moments that make you think, “So that’s why my love life feels like a rom-com gone wrong!”

Beyond individuals and couples, I’ve shaped wellbeing and happiness messaging for global brands like LG Electronics, Bank of America, Discovery, and even King Charles—earning a Promax Award along the way. Now, it’s your turn.

Media Presence

You might’ve seen me hosting The Balanced Life on KTLA, sharing How to Be Happier at Work on Good Day Chicago, or leading the Ask Sophie live relationship Q&A series on The Huffington Post. My work has also been featured in The Times, Parenting Magazine, MindBodyGreen, and Fox Business News, among others.

Keynote Speaking

As a keynote speaker, I’ve brought my expertise to global audiences, including recent keynotes at the World Psychology Conference and events in Cambridge, Munich, Rome, and Denver. Whether I’m on stage, on screen, or in one-on-one sessions, my mission is always the same: to inspire actionable change.

But enough about me…

…I want to know what you want and how I can help.

And if you’re still reading this, then maybe it’s true what they say: “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” Well, here I am—and here you are. :)

Why Swipe Right Love Advice?

Let’s face it - dating today can feel like navigating an emotional obstacle course. But with Swipe Right Love Advice, I’ve got your back. This is your go-to space for practical tips, live coaching, Q&A sessions, guided meditations and real answers to the questions keeping you up at night.

If your love life feels stuck, frustrated, or like it belongs in a bad reality show, know this: it doesn’t have to be that way. Together, we’ll turn that plot twist into the happy ending you deserve—minus the drama.

What You’ll Get:

1. Live Coaching & Q&A
Got a burning question? Join me for live sessions where I’ll give you direct, personalized advice to transform your love life—while addressing universal challenges we all face.

2. Exclusive Podcast Access
Get front-row access to the podcast episodes where I tackle real relationship challenges, offer practical advice, and dive into live coaching moments. Submit your own questions for a chance to be featured!

3. Actionable Tips & Inspiration
Receive practical tips and bite-sized inspiration straight to your inbox. Small, meaningful steps that lead to big changes in your relationships.

4. Interactive Tools
Discover fun, insightful quizzes to uncover your relationship patterns and gain actionable insights.

5. Engaging Conversations & Community
let’s talk about everything from celebrity love stories to what modern romantic comedies teach us about love.

6. Subscriber-Only Discounts on Private Sessions
Exclusive discounts on personalized, one-to-one private sessions with me.

For a Limited Time: Free for 90 Days!
Right now, all of these offerings—live coaching, podcast access, actionable tips, guided meditations, quizzes, and more - are available to all subscribers free for 90 days. After that, some features will become exclusive to paid members.

Take the first step toward healing, growth, and thriving relationships - join now!

Ready to Transform Your Love Life?

With over two decades studying happiness, love, and wellbeing, I know what works—and what doesn’t. If your love life feels stuck, frustrating, or like a bad reality show, it’s time to rewrite the script.

Hit subscribe and start transforming your relationships today.

Some other brands I’ve been privileged to work with….

Don’t miss out! Get expert relationship advice, inspiring tips, and live Q&A sessions. - all in one place. Your happier love life starts here.

Subscribe now

What’s the secret to a lasting relationship? It’s simpler than you think.

The most powerful thing you can do is show your partner how much they mean to you—every single day. Relationships don’t thrive on love alone; they thrive on appreciation, gratitude, and the little things that make your partner feel seen and valued.

Here’s how you can start building a love that lasts:

1. Express Your Appreciation Regularly

Your partner isn’t a mind reader. They need to hear how much they matter to you. Tell them the ways they make you happy and why you love them.

• Compliment them on what they do well: “I love how thoughtful you are.”

• Remind them how attractive you find them.

• Acknowledge their efforts: “I really appreciate how hard you work to support us.”

When your partner feels validated and admired, it builds trust, deepens your connection, and strengthens your bond.

2. Show Gratitude Through Actions

Words are powerful, but actions speak louder. Small, thoughtful gestures can have a big impact on your relationship.

• Butter their toast just the way they like it.

• Bring them their favorite coffee in the morning.

• Leave a love note in their bag.

• Surprise them with something they love—like their favorite dessert or a heartfelt card.

These simple actions demonstrate that you notice their efforts and care enough to go the extra mile.

3. Avoid the “I Can Never Make You Happy” Trap

If your partner ever says, “I feel like I can never make you happy,” take it as a red flag. This means they don’t feel appreciated or that their efforts aren’t enough in your eyes.

To avoid this trap, make sure your partner knows they are making you happy:

• Praise their kindness, generosity, or strengths.

• Say “thank you” often and mean it.

• Be mindful of their emotional needs and let them know you notice their contributions.

When you consistently express gratitude, your partner will feel secure, loved, and motivated to give even more to the relationship.

Why Gratitude is Key to a Lasting Relationship

A strong relationship isn’t built on grand gestures—it’s built on daily acts of love and appreciation. When your partner knows they are cherished, they’ll have no reason to seek validation elsewhere.

Take a moment today to show your partner how much they mean to you. You might be surprised how quickly these small efforts can reignite your connection and deepen your bond.

Your Turn: How Do You Show Appreciation?

What’s one small way you show gratitude to your partner? I’d love to hear your thoughts—share them in the comments!

Leave a comment

Ask anyone in a great relationship about their secret, and they’ll often tell you about a couple they admire—a relationship role model they look up to. These role models often share similar values, love and respect each other openly, laugh together, and are equals and best friends.

For some, this couple might be their parents. For others, it might be their grandparents, an aunt and uncle, close friends, or even their neighbors. If you’re not sure who your relationship role model is, here are three tips to help you find and learn from one:

1. Start Close to Home

Look for real-life examples around you. Who demonstrates the kind of love and partnership you admire? Maybe it’s your grandparents who still hold hands after 50 years or friends who always seem to have each other’s backs. Observing couples in your everyday life makes it easier to learn from their actions and apply their positive habits to your own relationship.

2. Learn From the Good and the Bad

If you have great role models, pay attention to what works for them. How do they resolve conflicts, communicate, or show affection? If you’ve experienced less-than-perfect examples, like a challenging divorce in your family, that’s okay too. Reflect on what you’d like to do differently in your own relationship, and let those lessons guide you.

3. Make It Your Own

Your role model’s relationship can inspire you, but it’s important to adapt their lessons to suit your own partnership. For example, maybe you admire how they make time for weekly date nights or the way they build each other up. Find what resonates with you and your partner and incorporate those practices in a way that feels authentic to your connection.

Your Turn: Share Your Role Model

Who do you admire in your life when it comes to relationships?

What qualities stand out to you, and how have they inspired your own approach to love?

If you’re already in a thriving relationship, I’d love to hear about the role models who influenced you and the lessons you’ve taken from them.

Leave a comment

Through my private psychology practice and Swipe Right Love Advice, I offer you practical tools rooted in science and self-development to navigate modern relationships - no magic tricks, just time- tested proven strategies.

But first, let me share how I went from dodging dating disasters to helping people build lasting love. (Spoiler: no fairy godmother involved!)

From Personal Struggles to Professional Happiness

Before meeting my husband, my love life was l let’s just say - “character-building.” Fast forward 20 years, and I’ve been happily married while guiding countless others through the rollercoaster of dating and relationships.

In my private practice, demand often exceeds my capacity, which is why I created Swipe Right Love Advice. My mission? To help you skip some of the struggles I faced and spark those “aha!” moments that shift everything. You’ll walk away with practical tools you can use immediately to transform your love life—starting today.

What Makes My Approach Unique?

I’m not here to offer fluff or cookie-cutter advice. My approach is grounded in:

• A PhD in Positive Psychology

• Decades of professional and media experience

• Four best-selling books (including two on relationships)

• A unique coaching blend of evidence-based practices and self-development methodologies, drawn from extensive training across multiple modalities.

Whether it’s practical tools or fresh perspectives, my goal is to help you uncover those “aha!” moments that make you think, “So that’s why my love life feels like a rom-com gone wrong!”

Beyond individuals and couples, I’ve shaped wellbeing and happiness messaging for global brands like LG Electronics, Bank of America, Discovery, and even King Charles—earning a Promax Award along the way. Now, it’s your turn.

Media Presence

You might’ve seen me hosting The Balanced Life on KTLA, sharing How to Be Happier at Work on Good Day Chicago, or leading the Ask Sophie live relationship Q&A series on The Huffington Post. My work has also been featured in The Times, Parenting Magazine, MindBodyGreen, and Fox Business News, among others.

Keynote Speaking

As a keynote speaker, I’ve brought my expertise to global audiences, including recent keynotes at the World Psychology Conference and events in Cambridge, Munich, Rome, and Denver. Whether I’m on stage, on screen, or in one-on-one sessions, my mission is always the same: to inspire actionable change.

But enough about me…

…I want to know what you want and how I can help.

And if you’re still reading this, then maybe it’s true what they say: “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” Well, here I am—and here you are. :)

Why Swipe Right Love Advice?

Let’s face it - dating today can feel like navigating an emotional obstacle course. But with Swipe Right Love Advice, I’ve got your back. This is your go-to space for practical tips, live coaching, Q&A sessions, guided meditations and real answers to the questions keeping you up at night.

If your love life feels stuck, frustrated, or like it belongs in a bad reality show, know this: it doesn’t have to be that way. Together, we’ll turn that plot twist into the happy ending you deserve—minus the drama.

What you’ll Get:

1. Live Coaching & Q&A
Got a burning question? Join me for live sessions where I’ll give you direct, personalized advice to transform your love life—while addressing universal challenges we all face.

2. Exclusive Podcast Access
Get front-row access to the podcast episodes where I tackle real relationship challenges, offer practical advice, and dive into live coaching moments. Submit your own questions for a chance to be featured!

3. Actionable Tips & Inspiration
Receive practical tips and bite-sized inspiration straight to your inbox. Small, meaningful steps that lead to big changes in your relationships.

4. Interactive Tools
Discover fun, insightful quizzes to uncover your relationship patterns and gain actionable insights.

5. Engaging Conversations & Community
let’s talk about everything from celebrity love stories to what modern romantic comedies teach us about love.

6. Subscriber-Only Discounts on Private Sessions
Exclusive discounts on personalized, one-to-one private sessions with me.

For a Limited Time: Free for 90 Days!
Right now, all of these offerings—live coaching, podcast access, actionable tips, guided meditations, quizzes, and more - are available to all subscribers free for 90 days. After that, some features will become exclusive to paid members.

Take the first step toward healing, growth, and thriving relationships - join now!

Ready to Transform Your Love Life?

With over two decades studying happiness, love, and wellbeing, I know what works—and what doesn’t. If your love life feels stuck, frustrating, or like a bad reality show, it’s time to rewrite the script.

Hit subscribe and start transforming your relationships today.

Some other brands I’ve been privileged to work with….

Disclaimer: The content provided by Swipe Right Love Advice is for informational and entertainment purposes only (“edutainment”) and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. For specific issues or mental health concerns, please consult a licensed professional.